WRITTEN BY: Carolyn Hadcock, Magnificent Journey to Joy
Mastering your Emotional Intelligence (EI) is life changing and promises to benefit your personal, spiritual and professional life.
We became aware of Emotional Intelligence in 1990 when Peter Salovey & John Mayer coined the phrase. Daniel Goleman increased popularity after writing his book on Emotional Intelligence in 1996.
The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: Self Awareness, Self Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management.
When you master your Emotional Intelligence life will become easier at home, in societal situations, in the workplace and in your spiritual practice. At home you will not be triggered by loved ones, and you will greet most experiences calmly and peacefully. At the workplace you will find yourself becoming a fully functioning team member, being less critical, collaborating more, be more empathetic, and assisting coworkers. In society you will be more empathetic with friends and loved ones, and trusting of others. In your Spiritual practice you will be more trusting of Spirit and trusting of your personal practice, healings, channellings and intuitive readings.
To fully appreciate your Emotional Intelligence, you could do an emotional scan each morning or each time you are confronted with a strong emotion. Are you sad, happy, confused, anxious, proud, jealous etc.? Keep a daily journal and comment on your mood for that day including the situation you are confronted with. I find putting pen to paper regarding my feelings is rather cathartic, helping me to discern if they are real or imagined.
Keeping that in mind, it is wise to reflect on the situation and determine what is really going on. Did a person say something unkind to you? Possibly that person had a terrible day, their words or actions have nothing to do with you. It may be time to discriminate on whether you are an empath or not, if you feel you are an empath you will often pick up others negative moods, thoughts and actions. You want to help so you unknowingly take them on. I am an empath and found I took on other’s woes, and pains. I find it helpful now to scan how I’m feeling, I do my best to discern if I own that emotion, pain etc. If not, I ask that it be removed to the original owner, it is their concern to deal with. Watch it fly away if it doesn’t belong to you.
Other skills to master include: become more resilient when embracing challenges and negative feelings. Do your best to reframe negative experiences with positive words, maintain a sense of optimism and fine tune your sense of humour. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who help to lift your spirit. Setting boundaries is helpful, I found this most arduous since I didn’t know this was allowed. Become more self confident and learn to truly love yourself, so that you can pursue your goals with conviction and knowing. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses, be brave and truly look at self. Finally, commit yourself to a life of constant growth be it spiritual, emotional, physical, or cognitive.
These are but a few of MANY strategies for supporting you in Mastering your EI. You can book a webinar or seminar for a group or a personal session to find out more on Mastering Your Emotional Intelligence as well as many other topics
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