by Vanessa | Jan 19, 2026 | February 2026
What to Do Differently Once You See the Pattern Once you realize that attraction is not always trustworthy and that attachment patterns live in the body, something shifts. You stop asking why love feels hard.You start asking how to choose differently. The answer is...
by Vanessa | Jan 19, 2026 | February 2026
Most people learn about attachment styles after a relationship has already hurt them. They read a description and feel exposed.Anxious. Avoidant. Disorganized. Secure. And quietly, many people come away thinking something is wrong with them. But attachment styles are...
by Vanessa | Jan 19, 2026 | February 2026
And It’s Not Your Fault If you have ever been deeply attracted to someone who made you anxious, unsure, or emotionally preoccupied, this is not because you are bad at choosing partners. It is because your nervous system misinterpreted a signal. This is the part no one...
by Vanessa | Dec 28, 2025 | January 2026
It Is Communicating With You Most people know about the nervous system.Many have heard the words fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or regulation. What most people have never been taught is how to recognize which state they are actually in while it is happening, or what...
by Vanessa | Dec 27, 2025 | January 2026
Many people say they’re fine and genuinely believe it. Nothing feels wrong enough to name. Life is functioning. Responsibilities are met. From the outside, everything appears steady. But “fine” is not always neutrality. Very often, it’s a nervous system state. When...
